This first “real” post is going to be something serious and what I believe to be a real issue in today’s society for women. Yes, it’s a big topic that has a lot of controversy surrounding it, but go big or go home, right?
I recently read an article from a fellow blogger on WordPress. Her entire article fascinated me- I had never thought about the song “All About that Bass” in this way before- was it really bashing those considered “skinny” and glorifying those that weren’t? When taking another listen to the song, I began to realize how accurate this seemed to be. I’ll admit it, I really did like the song. It made me feel good about my not-as-skinny-as-my-friends body shape. I let myself get sucked up into the fun beat and simply ideology of everyone being beautiful. But I suppose I never realized that the song has two major flaws to it. The first was briefly touched upon in the article: Girls, you need a boy to validate how you feel about yourself. How absolutely ridiculous is that? The second flaw is the fact that it deflates any girl who essentially feels good about herself. “Go ahead and tell them skinny b*tches that.” While it is followed with a “Naw, I’m just playing,” it’s the same thing as saying, “No offense, but xyz.” It’s still offensive.
So, if we don’t get validation from boys or other females, where can we get the validation of our body from? As a female, I can proudly say that I will never need a man to validate how I feel about my body, nor will I need a fellow female to tell me how I’m supposed to feel. The truth of the matter is this: my body is mine; you don’t like it, you can suck it up and leave. It’s infuriating when other people think that commenting on weight or appearance is an okay thing to do. It’s not. In truth, the fact that it’s almost socially acceptable to judge other women for their body type is disgusting.
You may be saying “I agree with you! But how do I change this?” This question is a difficult one, and it can have a different answer for every person. The best answer I can give you is what I do.
I have decided to believe in myself. I’m done relying on others for validation of my looks. In all honesty, it just makes me feel bad about myself. I’m done fishing for compliments. I’m done with complimenting other girls only to get one back. I’m going to mean what I say. When I say that I think somebody looks nice, I’m going to say it and mean it. No more half-hearted compliments. I’m going to choose to be happy with myself. I’m not petite; that’s for sure. But I’m deciding I don’t need to be petite to be happy. I just need to be happy. And I feel that every woman should take the opportunity to try this: point out your favorite parts of your body. Go ahead. I like my eyes, lips, and calves. Guess what, ladies? Nobody else has those same features. Sure, everybody has eyes, lips and calves, but not my eyes, lips and calves. And guess what connects the three together? My entire body. One part of your body isn’t beautiful; the entire thing is, and you should know it.
Believe in yourself. You are beautiful. I promise.
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